tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18432196.post3252011029054286873..comments2017-11-29T23:45:30.638-08:00Comments on myndless imagining: Radical Compassioneudaehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11506024765531976975noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18432196.post-39375223774441965102011-11-09T14:13:18.147-08:002011-11-09T14:13:18.147-08:00@Diane, I'd agree that you can help without un...@Diane, I'd agree that you can help without understanding another person, although sometimes this is counterproductive (e.g. international development). I'd also say at times "move on" is appropriate.<br /><br />That said, while the "move on" strategy has gotten me to a 'functional' state in life, it left me with lingering repression, neck pain, and disconnection. So I'm not satisfied with "move on" as anything more than a temporary measure. I want out.<br /><br />You say that you've come to believe that people are inherently self-centered. I'd agree, but I'd phrase it differently, with compassion in mind. People are confused. Their true nature is infinite love (as you mentioned before) but their expression of this love is stunted, limited, stingy. This is because they have experienced love in this limited way from their parents, their friends, and their lovers. They have defensively created busy lives where they are too busy to give. They schedule themselves out 30 minutes at a time, so as not to be asked to give something unexpected.<br /><br />When I see it happening to me, I feel frustrated too. But then I love the humanity that produces my frustration, and love the person that I experienced as self-centered, as if their mistake is mine. It sounds terribly hippie, but it's been immensely practical for me :)eudaehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11506024765531976975noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-18432196.post-85080524093439317152011-11-08T08:59:22.341-08:002011-11-08T08:59:22.341-08:00I question the necessity to connect with all of hu...I question the necessity to connect with all of humanity to counteract one's dark emotions. K sometimes thinks I am in denial, but I don’t always believe that talking things out help. There’s a time when you just have to say “Life effin’ sucks. Move on.” For instance, from my own years in pain and depression, I have come to believe people, as a whole, are inherently self-centered and really couldn't care less about me. However, what CAN I do? What is the next step? Well, the one thing I CAN do is do that one nice thing for one person next to me, even if that person wouldn't do the same for me. One does not need to understand that person inherently in order to do something good.Dianehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10666011542953760078noreply@blogger.com